When babies learn how to hold things, it opens up a whole new world of play for them. But like all things, it takes a bit of time and getting used to before they can get fully hands on.
It’s important to remember that all babies develop at different speeds and you shouldn’t be overly concerned if your wee one is going at their own pace. This is especially true if your baby is born premature.
If your baby is under 8 weeks old, you can find out more about their milestones at Ready Steady Baby.
Learning new physical skills isn’t easy for babies and can sometimes cause them to get upset and cry. This can be hard for you too, so remember to ask family and friends for support, or speak to your Health Visitor or Family Nurse for advice.
What to expect from birth
In the first few months, it’s normal for your baby to hold their hands in a fist but they’ll also automatically hold anything placed in their palm. So, try putting your finger in their palm and stroke it. It’s likely your little one will hold on tight, which is always a lovely feeling.
What to expect by 2 months
Photo of a baby grabbing toys
By this point, your baby’s hands will be open most of the time and it’s quite common for them to accidentally hit things while moving their arms.
What to expect by 4 months
Your baby will start to be interested in what’s going on around them and will probably have become aware of their own hands and sometimes also their feet. Although for some babies, discovering their little feet and pulling off their socks can come a little later.
You’ll find that the more practise your baby has at hitting things and grabbing them, the better they will get. In the beginning, they might hit you and pull your hair at times. Don’t worry, they’re not trying to hurt you - it’s just practise for them. Just try to react calmly and gently guide their hand to hold something else.
What to expect by 6 months
At this stage, most babies will reach out and grasp toys in their hand and also put most things in their mouth. So, make sure they don’t get hold of anything too small that they could choke on and ensure that your home is baby proofed.
Your baby will also start to use both hands together. Whenever they reach for a toy or an object, try talking to them about what they are doing with phrases like “yes, those are my keys”. This will help them concentrate on what they’re doing, as well as help them learn different words.
What to expect between 8 and 12 months
Your baby will be beginning to get better at holding things using their finger and thumb in a pincer grasp. Meal times are great for babies to practise this, so try handing them little bits of food.
Through the second half of their first year, your baby will also start dropping and throwing things. Don’t worry, they’re not being naughty. They need to do this to develop their hand eye coordination. Try and stay calm when this happens, it’s completely normal.
What to expect between 12 and 18 months
Photo of a messy baby holding a spoon
Look out for a change after your baby’s first birthday as they’ll start to point at things and people. This is an exciting time and at first might look like they’re reaching but you’ll soon see their index finger start to extend. Your baby wants you to show them the object, say the name of the object and talk about it. This is a great way to help them develop their language skills.
Fun ways to help your baby get a handle on things
There are lots of easy activities you can do to help your baby practise reaching and grasping. Try out some of our tips below – they’re fun for little fingers!
Tip #1: Toy pass
Tip #1: Toy pass
Tip #2: Reach out
Tip #2: Reach out
Tip #3: Baby gym
Tip #3: Baby gym
Tip #4: Sit up and take notice
Tip #4: Sit up and take notice
Tip #5: Finger feeding
Tip #5: Finger feeding
Tip #6: Mix it up
Tip #6: Mix it up
Staying safe
Once your baby is able to grab things, it’s important that there’s nothing in reach that they could put in their mouth and choke on. This also includes toys belonging to older brothers or sisters with small parts that might come off.
Should I be worried?
By 6 months, most babies will start reaching or grabbing for things and transferring items between their hands and mouth. If your baby is not showing any interest in reaching towards things by 5 – 6 months, then please ask your Health Visitor or Family Nurse for advice.
During the first year your baby will also use both hands to reach, grasp and hold things. It’s not until later that they will have a favourite hand. If you’re concerned that your baby uses one hand and not the other, it’s a good idea to talk to your Health Visitor or Family Nurse. Or if you have any other concerns at any stage of your baby’s development, you can also discuss this with your Health Visitor or Family Nurse. If your baby is premature and receiving follow up care, you can also get advice from your developmental team.
Learning new physical skills can be hard for babies and it’s normal for them to cry. If they get really frustrated, they can cry in an angry way and their faces can turn quite red. You might find this worrying, but as long as your baby is not having breathing difficulties, there is nothing to be alarmed about. Just try to comfort and settle your baby as normal.
